Comments on: TOXIC PEOPLE

By: tommyzman

tommyzman — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 22:25:32 +0000

This lady is cool, my peeps.

Rock on, Marsha.

- Z

By: mpsue

mpsue — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 20:08:02 +0000

I’ve read all the comments and that is exactly why I wrote the book. For the last post, the “poor me” person is really a cross between the Needy Weenie and the Whine and Cheeser. I like using the TLC approach, Take it, Leave it, or Change it. When they are sapping around, keep your language in the “I” mode. Something like, “You know what I’ve learned? I’ve learned that I have three choices. I can take it (meaning in the moment I’m not stressed because I’m working on a plan.) I can leave it (which means I reject or walk away from the situation) or I can change it (which means I will be more flexible and learn new skills to help me move forward.” Then I will say, “Whats YOUR plan.” They will start whining around, and I will say the same exact thing over, and over, and over, until they will go suck the life out of someone else. At least they are leaving ME alone. Does that help??? Marsha
ps: the book is available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, or my web site http://www.MarshaPetrieSue.com and thanks for asking!

By: the.wife

the.wife — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 13:56:16 +0000

Everyone thinks about the abusive / abrasive / acerbic person, but there’s a person in my office who is the classic “Poor Me.” She is a sorry sap who always has the sad face and the world is her personal hell. At first you get sucked in and feel sorry for her, but after a while you want to hit her in the face with a vase.

While she’s not abusive or confronting, her negative demeanor sucks the life force out of everyone in my office. The biggest thing of all is that she is incredibly MANIPULATIVE.

Marsha… if you’re reading, I’d love you to comment on this.

Thanks so much,
Robin

By: tommyzman

tommyzman — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 13:43:35 +0000

It seems everyone has had someone like this in their lives. It’s kind of funny how wishing death upon someone like this comes so easy. My ex-business partner was the steam roller from hell.

By: hockeymaniac

hockeymaniac — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 13:31:57 +0000

I will have to read this. There is a person at work that is so TOXIC that I promised everyone I would buy breakfast the day this person dies.

By: Overworked

Overworked — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 07:41:08 +0000

I could use this book! There’s a person at work named … uh, wait. Her daughter’s a lawyer. Maybe calling her out isn’t the best approach, anyway. Let me read the book.